What’s the difference?
What does it mean to be an “Over-talker” anyway? In my opinion, an over talker is someone that gives more than enough information than people are asking to hear. For example, someone can make a comment like; Anna: “Did you hear about Bobby and Karen splitting up the other day?” Brenda: “Yeah, I kind of did. That’s too bad. They were good together.” Anna: “It was best for her because I heard… (here comes the b.s) …he was drunk all the time and fooling around on her…bla…bla…bla…, way too much information. Even if it was true, somewhere down the line the truth got twisted and it’s none of Anna’s business to talk about it to another. Whereas “Gossip”, is just merely running your mouth without factual basis or premise that would validate what you’re gossiping about. So, now let’s address the questions at hand:
- What does God think about it?
Romans 16:17-18; I appeal to you, brothers, to watch out for those who cause divisions and create obstacles contrary to the doctrine that you have been taught; avoid them. For such persons do not serve our Lord Christ, but their own appetites, and by smooth talk and flattery they deceive the hearts of the naïve.
James 4: 11-12; Do not speak evil against one another, brothers. The one who speaks against a brother or judges his brother, speaks evil against the law and judges the law. But if you judge the law, you are not a doer of the law but a judge. There is only one lawgiver and judge, he who is able to save and to destroy. But who are you to judge your neighbor?
- What Kind of people gossip?
Well, I believe that misery loves company. Some people are just unhappy with themselves, life or relationships and just find it easier to talk about others and create things to relieve themselves from whatever pain or emptiness they may be feeling at that present moment. Or just perhaps love to start shit at the expense of others being hurt. That’s just my opinion, but I would love to hear your comments on these questions because there’s a whole lot of this going around today. Everyone is affected by it.
- Why is gossiping so appealing to people?
In today’s society, gossiping is fun, a bit entertaining an every day past time. Hell, it’s very easy to take the focus off of myself and my problems and focus on someone else and their life, because let’s face it, there are a lot more problems going on with you than me, a lot more interesting if I can get others involved in talking about you. All of that sounds great, however, the reality is while I’m thinking I’m doing myself some good in refocusing my attention on someone else, actually I’m reflecting a mirror image of who I am, therefore exposing myself. The things we are gossiping about…is a reflection of who you are because if you listen close enough you find yourself talking about you in one form or another. Just my opinion.
- What are the effects of gossiping?
I can’t say that ALL gossiping is bad. Some form of gossip can actually be informative, perhaps for seeking advice, or opportunities, but when we hear the word “Gossip”, automatically we assume it’s the bad kind. Rumors, back-biting, mixed lies and the ruining of lives kind of gossip. Its effects can be damaging, threatening and even disastrous. Remember, gossip is 50% mixed lies and assumptions, 30% created and twisted, and the remaining 20%, well…that’s the truth, mainly the person or people names and their situation…go figure.
- What is the solution?
The solution? Wow…if there ever is one it must begin with the individual. That is, the one listening. You have to ask yourself, why is this person telling me this? And what does it profit for me to engage in talking about someone behind their back? Since we know the ratio of gossip, we can let it die with us and refuse to pass on damaging information that could possibly ruin other lives. I suppose that option has always been in our hands from the beginning. Making sure the information is reliable before addressing it to others or let it die with us is my best solution…you decide, but that’s only my opinion.
Please leave a comment. I would love to hear your opinions about this. God bless you. Remember, you could be the next one that the same person talks about.